In some situations it may not be a good idea to let Mother Nature apply her natural consequences when the situation is simply too dangerous to allow for that.
Parents, schools, and any adult in temporary custody of and in charge of children does have a duty to intervene in a child’s unsafe conduct.
Disobeying Mother Nature’s rules of conduct can be very dangerous. She may not allow a second chance.
It is the responsibility of adults to create alternative artificial consequences that may help intervene in Mother Nature’s methods, yet also get the message to children to obey civil and lawful rules, including Mother Nature’s laws.
The reality is that there is inherent risk in everything we do – Everything! Knowing that this reality is with us every moment makes risk seem one of our closest companions.
Nevertheless, seems way too often we attack ourselves when doing our best to raise our kids. How is this a good thing to do to ourselves? It is not good.
To accuse and attack and attempt to lynch other parents and other adults in temporary charge of children over every mistake that happens may be worse than not good.
The Mrs. and I raised six kids between us and are blessed with eighteen grandchildren. Can’t recall a day that everything went perfect. Maybe close to perfect on occasion, but never perfect. A child suddenly realized missing for a space or some other risk event that can happen was typical life most days. And as children grow they can get involved in all sorts of things the most concerned and loving parent may miss is happening.
|1948 IHC Bus|
There was a time that to invade another farmer’s field and plant over it was often considered an act of hatred, and illegal. It was not considered assistance, or advice.
Going fishing, swimming, running a line of wire between our homes bedrooms connected to a battery and homemade intercom device, we had all sorts of fun things to do all year long, and most of it outdoors, and often unsupervised.
We had other store-bought toys as well, some still popular these days. Some not considered appropriate for modern day children.
We were permitted to watch certain shows unsupervised on our modern B&W Admiral TV that received two channels. We watched Lassie, Rin-Tin-Tin, Mr. Moon, Captain Midnight, Father Knows Best, Donna Reed, Captain Kangaroo, and similar shows. When a little older we could watch Dick Tracy, Dragnet, and other shows that supported proper conduct. The criminals always lost. If we missed getting our school homework or home chores done, we were not permitted to watch TV until caught up.
Sunday evening Dad and Mom controlled the TV. We watched what they watched, period -- no discussion. Lawrence Welk, Red Skelton, Gunsmoke. Can not recall it even dawning on us to question our parents' choices for Sunday evening's entertainment. A good dinner, maybe some popcorn or ice cream, or some other family treat. It seemed a safe place, and seemed welcomed to know what we would be doing Sunday evening's with our parents'.
We did not like homosexuals. Even in our time, there were three or four in our town that would attempt at least once to coax one of us in to his car. These were not bums, nor dirty clothed losers, nor aggressive or threatening. They were actually as friendly and kind-like toward kids as were heterosexuals, one a bit more so with offers to let drive his car, offers of candy, and other typical lures. But we knew of the cultivating methods and did not like these tempting us, said so point blank, and didn't get into trouble for speaking our peace about this issue.
There seemed some tolerance toward homosexuals in our group of parents, but limited to that concerning 'what adults do among themselves in private is pretty much their own business.' Do not make a mockery of sorts out of the rest of us in the public arena, was the general theme.
Communism was some sort of evil empire, but we had no idea what a communist was, only not to be one. To call someone a 'Commie' was considered worse than shouting out a racist remark, although racist remarks were also discouraged.
We practiced Atomic Bomb Attack Drills in school. The phrase, Better Dead Than Red, was everywhere.
So much today seems to have to do with kids and now some younger adults that were protected from ever touching a hot burner, protected from pain, protected from germs, and protected from every sort of risk imaginable, including no guns and including protecting uncivil children from the civil.
Not the case with every child, of course, but involves enough kids and now plenty of young adults.
There is not much these days about basic posture, exercise, rest, worry, and the environment that does not involve a product of some sort. We knew the basics, seemed sufficient.
Too many young adults can not pay taxes because they did not learn a work ethic and can not hold a job. But these same sorts oftentimes feel it is not their fault and expect the rest of America to pay their way. Unfortunately, it may not all be their fault.
During our time, the employee that constructively critiqued the industrial workplace might end up in management. Bringing out from the closet some serious issue and displaying it was sometimes viewed as a work of the skeptic by some employers but not necessarily disloyal, again depending on the employer.
The same employee in another workplace might have been viewed as a disloyal employee, a troublemaker, and in some cases consider the equivalent of a whistle blower. And in the worst case, called a communist.
Henry Ford was the first to offer better pay and benefits. He was considered a fair employer who often talked about 'sharing the wealth' with the workers that made him wealthy. He lead the way to better worker treatment, but the company's philosophy changed in later years. This happened, partly because of the Great Depression, and partly because workers began wanting more of the wealth than employers wanted to share.
Employer/employees conflicts on our current timeline can involve the distasteful employer that has replaced the word communist with union member. The distasteful employee side of the coin may respond by calling employer leaders Nazi's. Political opinion, excessive individual fear, and mob mentality emotion can override science and fact.
Loyalty was an important employee attribute all successful employers looked for in their help, including the mob. This attribute remains an important today at many employers, and even among criminal groups.
Seems that in these modern times, and after many decades of new and improved expert safety advice, employer workplace safety achievements, and safer products, after all that it seems that neither parents nor kids know how to protect themselves from all sorts of modern risks that are endangering kids, including when on the Internet and what happens when eating too much junk food. So many kids give little thought to posture, exercise, and proper rest.
And the bad things evolving from over use of germ killers that have created dangerous health and body issues seem to have made our environment more dangerous these days the ever before, including mega-bugs that we have no defense from. We were covered in dirt and the bad germs that make people sick, even can die these days. We had germs all over us all day, acquired from working or playing outside. Soap and water was our defense, hardly ever beyond that.
I was included in an interesting public education program where instead of phonics we learned to memorize words for their correct spelling. Worked great for kids with a photographic memory. Didn’t work well at all for the rest of us, the majority of the class.
The survival connection of too many kids with their single parent or parents' just seems too weak these days. Recent forth of July articles provides good safety instruction for adults willing to keep control and supervise while the kids have a blast, unaware of the fun some of us had in our youth, including what real food and real deserts made at home by mom or dad tasted like.
Back in earlier days in our community potatoes ruled – typically shredded for breakfast, fried for lunch, and mashed for dinner. Never got tired of potatoes and other starch-based foods. Liked sugar as well, but most of that was limited to treats for good behavior, on pancakes with homemade butter, and dessert when not in trouble. Ice cream was real ice cream, sometimes made at home after dinner for a special treat. Then to bed for a good night’s rest. Even milk tasted different way back when.
No need to ruin what kids think is fun or make much mention of modern foods that tastes good to kids these modern days, (Sugar and Salt Rules!). Lets keep the good ol’ days between us adults.
Yes, on Independence Day we do seem to celebrate our independence from Mother England, although we seem somewhere along the way to have also declared independence from our own Mother America. Independence was an old people thing, I guess something they did in the old days.
Independence is what made America. These days, too much dependence on our new Stepmother America may destroy her, and destroy us in the process. Where is our safety against that happening, some might well ask?
Happy Independence Day to old people. Best of luck to the rest.
More stories and references
- How to Create a Fake Firework
- School Bus History in Photos
- A Look Back at the 1950's
- The 1950's: The Life of an Average American - By Ronald Bellettiere
- 1957 Diet Commercial for Women
- James Bond Toy Set
- Mattel's Zero M making Movies in the park
- Mattel's Sonic Blaster For Spy's Only
- Mattel's Fanner .50 and Cross-Draw Holster Toy Commercial
- Mattel's Spaceman & Thunder Burp Machine Guns
- How to Be Well Groomed (1949)
- Mind Your Manners (1953)
- The Snob (1958)
- How Honest Are You? (1950)
- A Date With Your Family (1950)
- Dating: Do's And Dont's (1949)
- How Do You Know It's Love? (1950)
- Are You Ready For Marriage? (1950)
- How To Keep A Job (1949)
- History of Unions - Inheritance - Part 1
- History of Unions - Inheritance - Part 2
- History of Unions - Inheritance - Part 3
- History of Unions - Inheritance - Part 4
- Danger - Women at Work
- The Homosexuals (1967) - Mike Wallace - CBS Documentary
- Red Skelton's Pledge of Allegiance
- Youth in Nazi Germany? - Part 1
- Youth in Nazi Germany? - Part 2
- The Red Nightmare (1950's-60's) - Communist takeover of America
- Atomic Bomb Attack Drills (Fallout 1955)
- Dragnet 1951 - the Human Bomb
- Women know your limits? (Some men wish)
- A Word to the Wives (1955)
- Five and a Half Hours of Vintage Television, (Public Domain material)